HAHAHA. Some things just don’t change when it comes to collaborations or bands. When you decide to journey down the path of collaborative works, the process of making music can get frustrating. One person wants one thing, the other want something else… it’s total drama.
It makes me laugh a bit. I mean, I laugh after I let the initial frustrations pass because I get it. It’s your baby, it’s your creation, your masterpiece but now you’re sharing and musicians (or any artist for that matter) don’t like that even when they need it or asked for it. You get at least two different people bringing something different to the table of creative brainstorming and sometimes we tend to hold on to parts because maybe you’ve had it in your head and you JUST KNOW that THAT is what you want but then you can’t make it fit so you want to rearrange everything around it just to find out, it’s didn’t work after all.
OH, the frustrations never seem to end but in the end, it’s worth it. It’s cool to see how a project will unfold, to take it from something you jotted down into a fully produced song. You’ll inevitably pick at it, tear it up, hate it, want to quit, want to throw it away, want to trash the whole thing but you can’t because you and your partners have already put in so much work and so you take a break and come back with fresh ears.
Chances are, after you have taken a break from listening to the same things a thousand times, you’ll like it again OR you’ll finally hear what it is that was bugging you. The key, I think, is to not give up. Working with others to create music is personal and it can be a lot of fun but it can also be so frustrating your drummer get’s drunk and calls you names, the lead singer just tells everyone to fuck off, the lead guitarist is like, “whatever man, you guys need help” and the bassists is like, “wanna smoke?”. It’s all good.
What you should always remember when putting your band together or when working with different people is that music is like a person’s baby. You dump your soul into your work and it’s really hard to let the “babies” grow up. It’s hard to take criticisms. It’s hard to adjust, adapt and rework it.
Still, making music is like writing a book. You get it down, you edit, you rewrite and repeat. It can sometimes be an easy process but it can also sometimes be a long and tedious one. Just remember, you started it because you wanted to create something.
So create. It’s always worth it especially when you can look back and see you started with practically nothing and made it something.